Young People

What is Abuse?

Domestic Abuse (also called domestic violence) happens when one person hurts or bullies another person who is or was their partner or who is in the same family. It can happen between people who are going out together, living together, have children together or are married to each other. It can happen either when people live together or seperately.

Domestic Abuse can also happen after a relationship has finished. Usually (but not always) it is the man who is the abuser and the women who gets hurt. Although domestic abuse happens mostly between adults, young people can be affected by the abuse that they see and hear and they can be hurt or bullied as part of domestic abuse between adults. Young people may also experience abuse from their own boyfriend/girlfriend.


Domestic Abuse can be


  • Constantly putting a person down
  • Constantly checking where someone is
  • Stopping someone from seeing their friends or family
  • Stopping someone from having a job


  • Hitting, pushing, kicking, pinching
  • Throwing or smashing things
  • Making threats to hurt someone


  • Making someone do sexual acts that they don't want to
  • Rape


  • Not allowing someone to have any money
  • Checking what someone spends money on
  • Stopping someone from working
  • Taking someones money from them

Domestic Abuse is a repeated pattern of behaviour, it often includes several different forms of abusive behaviour. It may get worse the longer two people are together. People use domestic abuse to control other people.

If someone in your family is abusive, remember it is not your fault.

If it is happening in your family, remember that you are not alone. Domestic abuse happens in many families and there are people that can help you and your family. Everyone has the right to be and feel safe.

More links:

Living with Abuse
Who to ask for help?
Useful links for Young People